Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.  You know, that greeting card holiday where we tell everyone how much we love them.  Years ago, when I was dating my husband, it was a special occasion.  We would go out, do romantic things, enjoy each other.  Now?  Now we’re busy wiping butts and noses, making dinner, and doing laundry to even notice Valentine’s Day.

Now if you’re smart, you see the issue here. Parenting is hard, it’s even harder when you and your spouse aren’t getting some time to connect.  I can always tell when my marriage isn’t getting enough time.  My husband and I get short with each other, we get frustrated easily, we’re short with the kids. We need some time to reconnect and focus on each other, it helps us be a better team.

For many of us, being mom means having kids hanging on you all day long.  So the last thing you want is to have someone ELSE hanging on you after they’re in bed.  I like to take some time for me, and then I can focus on my husband.  If I don’t have some quiet, alone time, I’m worthless.  There are also ways to help enhance your mood.  Light some candles, put on some cute lingerie, or put on some music.

For some, after bed time is just not a feasible time to spend time with your partner.  Hiring a sitter and heading out for a few hours at a time that works for you can be a great way to spend some time with each other. The priority is taking a little time to reconnect.

I’m always a fan of wearing something that makes you feel good when you’re spending time with your partner.  Whether that means investing in a cute nursing bra, or wearing a shirt that makes you feel pretty, or maybe it’s a hot pair of shoes, feeling good is important, and feeling like you look good can help you relax and reconnect with your partner. And let’s face it.  Motherhood is hard, we need our partners to stand beside us, and we need to stay united to make it all work well.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we’ll be giving away one set of lingerie (maternity or nursing) to a lucky lady.  Let us know what you do to stay connected to your partner in the comments, and be sure to check out the PassionSpice line and add a little spice to your Valentine’s Day!  I’ll choose a winner on 2/01/12.